When Men Are Young ...

... they're mildly, well, obsessed with sex. Why is that? Men In their twenties are interested in things they can touch and feel. Bodies are something to derive pleasure from. As men age, though their testosterone production - along with their sex drive - can decrease, and many begin to notice a woman's brain before her bra size.

So, what exactly is going on in a man's mind as he makes the journey from his twenties to his forties? To get the scoop, 98 men were asked eight intimate questions to see what a difference a decade (or two) makes - in a guy's brain and his bed.

1. WHAT'S THE NUMBER 1 QUALITY U LOOK FOR IN A POTENTIAL GIRLFRIEND?

in their 20s ...

"she's gotta be good looking"

"good teeth"

"her record collection should put up a decent fight against mine"

"the ability to take a joke. Then u can make fun of her butt and she'll give it right back to you"

in their 30s ...

"passion for who she is, for what she wants in life and in how she treats me and others"

"humor. A lifetime is too long to be bored"

"she has to be intelligent. Dumb girls are a dime a dozen and no fun. If I want dumb, I'll just look in the mirror"

in their 40s ...

"a sense of humor. If she doesn't get the joke, it's not going to work"

"can she stand to live with me?"

"grit, if a woman doesn't have a spine, why bother?"

"being able to see the good in people no matter what the bad stuff is"

2. FAVORITE BRA SIZE

in their 20s ...

"a nice C"

"a large C"

"after careful analysis, I have determined that 36C is the optimal size"

"size 38C. It's perfect!"

"D, baby, D!!"

in their 30s ...

"B is a nice handful. But excitable nipples are most important"

"B+"

"B or C. I don't want to get hit in the head during sex, but I don't want 'em smaller than mine"

"A, I like them manageable and compact"

in their 40s ...

"I take the position women take with me, thank God: it's not the size, it's how you use them"

"smallish- is that A or D?"

"I'm like Mies van der Rohe: less is more"

"her breasts, whatever size, are beautiful"

3. HOW OFTEN WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX?

in their 20s ...

"once a day"

"twice a day. Is there a better way to wake up? A better way to go to sleep? No"

"hourly"

"when I have a girlfriend, four times a day or more. When I'm single, four times a week or more"

in their 30s ...

"I'd like the option of having sex everyday. which would require a relationship"

"Every other day, now that I'm older"

"Four times a week"

"I'd like to give my woman and orgasm seven days a week"

in their 40s ...

"four to five times a week. I'm not a s virile as I used to be"

"I'm married, so one to three times a week is great"

"twice a week"

"my 4-times-a-day days are over, but four times a week is a happy sum"

4. WHAT'S SO GREAT ABOUT WOMEN?

in their 20s ...

"breasts"

"their softness"

"their bodies"

"the entire contrast between them and me: the smooth skin, the curves, the hips, the breasts"

in their 30s ...

"they give birth"

"they inspire me and make me step up to the plate. I want to be fresh and exciting for them"

"what's not to love"

"that you can never tell what they're thinking, even when they swear they're telling you. That's also my least favorite thing"

in their 40s ...

"it would take an hour to list the chapter headings .... "

"I know I will never understand them, which is enough to keep me fascinated. Then there are the breasts, too"

5. WHAT ARE THE BEST AND WORST THINGS ABOUT WOMEN YOUR AGE?

in their 20s ...

"best, no wrinkles. Worst, they like older guys"

"best, they're still wavering between wild, drunken one-night stands and the looking-for-love stage. Worst, I don't know which one I'm getting"

in their 30s ...

"they're powerful, they truly wear the pants in the universe, but they're super picky. Maybe that's why they're still single and always complaining about it"

"they're sexually peaking, politically aware, relatively secure ... but also conflicted about career and childrearing"

"best, they're confident and stable. Worst, there aren't enough of the good ones left"

in their 40s ...

"the best is that they're wise. The worst is that this means they know all the tricks"

"best, they no longer base their desires on what some guy thinks. Worst, some are defeated, like the parade has passed them by and it's never going to get any better"

"best, they know a lot about what a man likes during sex. Worst, they know a lot about men in general, too"

6. WHAT ARE THE BEST AND WORST THINGS ABOUT SEX AT YOUR AGE?

in their 20s ...

"best, in my prime. Worse, living with my parents"

"I don't have a problem getting an erection. But there's not enough sex available"

"best, things still seem new. Worst, STDs like HIV"

"best, being able to have sex over and over again. Worst, my girlfriend doesn't share this quality"

in their 30s ...

"best, you know how to do it. Worst, you have to do it after the kids are asleep"

"best, you know what you like. Worst, you fall into a routine"

"sex is more spiritual, but I'm slowing down, and so is my sex drive"

in their 40s ...

"the best thing is that I'm no longer a raging hormonal disaster. The worst is that I just keep thinking, I'm one year closer to death"

"the worst is when a woman gets two big handfuls of my love handles"

"everything's better"

7. THE ONLY THING BETTER THAN SEX IS ...

in their 20s ...

"more sex"

"I'm drawing a blank"

"playing an amazing (concert) set onstage to a medium-size but responsive crowd and then screwing like James Brown on Viagra immediately afterward"

"eating a pastrami sandwich while having sex"

in their 30s ...

"better than sex"

"the piss you'd been putting off while drinking at the bar"

"laughing with friends and family"

"sex with someone you love .. ? sorry, cliche answer"

in their 40s ...

"raising kids you made from sex"

"gelato"

"love"

"happiness, wisdom and eternal life... but only if there was a clause in the contract stipulating you could still have as much sex as you want"

8. WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT SEX AND LOVE NOW THAT YOU DIDN'T KNOW WHEN YOU WERE 18?

in their 20s ...

"sex is more that orgasm, and love ain't easy"

"I was a virgin at 18, so now I know what sex is like"

"I know it's better to tell a woman that you love her than to keep it to yourself"

"you can tell a woman is having a really good time in bed when you can feel things clench up"

in their 30s ...

"at 18, I never knew that women like sex as much as they do. I thought guys were the only ones who wanted it"

"I know now that you can fall in love over and over again. Just because one meaningful relationship ends doesn't mean there won't be another one down the road"

"when it comes to sex, women don't really want what you see in a porno movie- thank god"

in their 40s ...

"at 18, I thought I knew everything. At 40, I'm starting to understand that I know nothing"

"sex is easier to get and love is harder to find than I imagined"

... what I read

What If We Didn't Have To Sleep?

There Would Be No Need For Starbucks

The only people drinking coffee would be those who actually like the taste. So there would be a Starbucks on  every other street corner instead of every corner.

You Couldn't Say, "We Slept Together."

You'd have to be more blunt and say, "We had sex." Also, men wouldn't fall asleep after sex. They would either stay up and chitchat with you all night or they'd just say, "I'm going back to my house now." There wouldn't be any middle ground that would leave you guessing!

The Imaginary Sheep Population

... would wander into absolute chaos due to a lack of being counted. (LOL)

You'd Never Have To Hear

... anyone describe their dreams.

You Would Not Have To Listen To

... those perfect moms and dads who always say, "Oh! We have the best baby! Our little Skyler sleeps through the whole night!" Now new parents would look even more worn out than they already do, as they would have to be dealing with baby 24/7.

There Would Be No Cow-tipping

... what I read

Perfect 'Cups'

What Do You See ? ... and where's the coffee?

Burning Desire

One of the principles of success is DESIRE: knowing what one wants.

You have been disappointed, you have undergone defeat during the depression, you have felt the great heart within you crushed until it bled. Take courage for these experiences have tempered the spiritual mental of which you made- they are assets of incomparable value.

A BURNING DESIRE to be, and to do is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off. Dreams are not born of indifference, laziness or lack of ambition. If the thing you wish to do is right, and you believe it, go ahead and do it. Put your dreams across, and never mind what 'they' say if you meet with temporary defeat, for 'they' perhaps, do not know that EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.

One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average man's familiarity with the word 'impossible'. He knows all the rules which will NOT work. He knows all the things which CANNOT be done.

Another weakness found in altogether too many people, is the habit of measuring everything, and everyone, by their own impressions and beliefs. Some who will read this, will believe that no one can Think And Grow Rich. They cannot think in terms of riches, because their thought habits have been steeped in poverty, want, misery, failure and defeat.

Before we can accumulate riches in great abundance, we must magnetize our minds with intense DESIRE for riches, that we much become money conscious until the DESIRE for money drives us to create definite plans for acquiring it.

Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat. Only by so doing can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a BURNING DESIRE TO WIN, essential to success.

Every human being who reaches the age of understanding of the purpose of money, wishes for it. Wishing will not bring riches, but desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.

One must realize that all who have accumulated great fortunes, first did a certain amount of dreaming, hoping, wishing, DESIRING, and PLANNING before they acquired money. You may as well know that you can never have riches in great quantities, unless you can work yourself into a white heat of DESIRE for money, and actually BELIEVE you will possess it. You might as well know, also that every great leader, from the dawn of civilization down to the present, was a dreamer.

KNOWLEDGE will not attract money, unless it is organized and intelligently directed, through practical PLANS OF ACTION, to the DEFINITE END of accumulation of money. Lack of understanding of this fact has been the source of confusion to millions of people who falsely believe that 'knowledge is power'. It is nothing of the sort! Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.

If you do not see great riches in your IMAGINATION, you will never see them in you bank balance, as RICHES begin in the form of THOUGHT.

WE ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR FATE, THE CAPTAINS OF OUR SOULS, BECAUSE WE HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL OUR THOUGHTS.

EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.

... Napoleon Hill

Relationship Happy Therapy

3 most common unhappy habits & how to turn them around ;

1. They've Lost Respect For Each Other

Unhappy couples often talk over each other, which shows a massive lack of respect. Take turns to talk without interruption. Only once they are forced to listen to each other in this way can they start the process of working out how to make each other happy.

2. They Don't Make Eye Contact

Unhappy couples often avoid eye contact when they're speaking to each other. A psychotherapist saw a couple who spent a whole session looking and directing everything they said to him. He asked them to look and speak directly at each other. As soon as they did that they began to really listen to what they were saying. Once they were communicating in this way they instantly felt closer.

3. They Misunderstand Each Other

An expert reveals, of the unhappy couples she meets, often the woman will speak in emotional terms, talking about how things make her feel, and the man will talk in more direct way, taking things at face value without considering the emotional side. She advised them to communicate with their partner in terms they'll understand, with men tapping into their emotional side and women their logical side.

... what I read

What You Should Know ...

... by now

1. That the words "easy" and "weight loss" do not belong in the same sentence.
   
2. That when someone asks whether they look OK, the only acceptable answer is YES.
3. That you can fight with your boss... but you can't win.
4. That those people on TV whose lives always look so effortlessly great? They're not real.
5. That you should never, ever feel self-conscious in bed, even with the lights on.
6. That there is very little in life that can't be undone.
7. That please and thank you actually are magic words.
8. That if he really loves you, he'll be good to you.
9. That models have cellulite too, and most men couldn't care less about it. Why should you?
10. That if you're capable of being happy "someday", you're capable of being happy right now.
11. That you know what to do. You may just be scared to do it (but don't let that stop you).

...what I read

B in good mood

It will help you stay healthy .. 5 easy tricks to help you stay upbeat :

1. Stretch you legs ~ move more during the day, it will make you be more in positive mood than just sitting on your tooshies.
2. Do something nice ~ be it just holding a door open for a mom with a stroller, little acts of kindness can make you cheery. A research found that doing a variety of good deeds three times a week significantly boosted people's happiness after 10 weeks.
3. Go easy on yourself ~ a good reason not to obsess over having a few chocolate cookies; people who don't feel bad about indulging in pleasures like SEX, SWEETS, had higher level of disease fighting immunoglobulin A than those who beat themselves up.
4. Say thanks ~ grateful people are happy people.
5. Hang some cheer ~ anything different- new adventures, new people, new shoes.... excites our brains and boosts our mood.

...what I read

Life & Money

Worried bout getting laid off? Here's what to do..

1. Hoard the $100 you'd blow on weekend dining and plan BYOs with friends.
2. Micromanage your budget. And chip away at credit card debt as much as possible-there will be less to shoulder if you're ever out of work.
3. Stop using credit cards period, and live off cash to escape the interest beast.

...what I read

Do you limit your tv time?

A survey found that people who watched less than an hour of tv daily did better on memory tasks than those who watched more. Heavy tube-watchers are also more likely to be overweight and have high-calories, low-nutrient diets, which preliminary research suggests could lead to diseases like Alzheimer's. - what I read