The Real Reasons You're So Tired

IF YOU ARE ... feeling tired when you're active, but better as soon as you rest.

It could be, lack of fitness. Energy levels increase as you take regular exercise.

But if you're also ... looking paler, experiencing bouts of breathlessness when you're not particularly active, feeling light-headed or you've recently become pregnant, you could be anaemic. You can become iron deficient due to heavy periods or not eating a sufficient diet of dark, leafy greens and/or red meat.

It's time to see your GP if ... you also have dry skin, experience sensitivity to the cold (even when it's warm) and you've put on more than a stone over six months without altering your lifestyle or diet, as you could have an underactive thyroid. It's quite common, especially if it runs in your family.

IF YOU ARE ... feeling tired when you're rested, but better when you're active.

It could be, you need to be more active. This doesn't have to involve going to the gym, it could be getting off the bus a few stops earlier or using the stairs instead of the lift.

But if you're also ... experiencing weight loss or gain, having trouble sleeping and inexplicably low moods that you can't shake off, you may be struggling with a mild to moderate form of depression. Everyone suffers a degree of depression at some point in their life. Exercise can be just as effective as antidepressants and most mild cases resolve themselves.

It's time to see your GP if ... you've experienced panic attacks, severe anxiety or intrusive, unpleasant thoughts.

IF YOU ARE ... feeling tired, thirsty and faint the day after you've been active.

It could be, you're dehydrated. We need water to run the body's essential systems. If you don't drink enough water or drink too much tea, coffee or alcohol you might get headaches, nausea and tiredness.

But if you're also ... sneezing a lot, have a runny nose and watery eyes, you could have a fever. It can develop at any age, and is more likely if you have a family history of hay fever, eczema or asthma.

It's time to see your GP if ... you have achy muscles and tiredness a long time after an illness (such as glandular fever), as a viral infection can trigger fatigue syndrome. One in 200 women develop it. Your GP can only offer symptom relief. So work through it with regular rest, healthy eating and moderate activity, such as walking.

... what I read

Burning Desire

One of the principles of success is DESIRE: knowing what one wants.

You have been disappointed, you have undergone defeat during the depression, you have felt the great heart within you crushed until it bled. Take courage for these experiences have tempered the spiritual mental of which you made- they are assets of incomparable value.

A BURNING DESIRE to be, and to do is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off. Dreams are not born of indifference, laziness or lack of ambition. If the thing you wish to do is right, and you believe it, go ahead and do it. Put your dreams across, and never mind what 'they' say if you meet with temporary defeat, for 'they' perhaps, do not know that EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.

One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average man's familiarity with the word 'impossible'. He knows all the rules which will NOT work. He knows all the things which CANNOT be done.

Another weakness found in altogether too many people, is the habit of measuring everything, and everyone, by their own impressions and beliefs. Some who will read this, will believe that no one can Think And Grow Rich. They cannot think in terms of riches, because their thought habits have been steeped in poverty, want, misery, failure and defeat.

Before we can accumulate riches in great abundance, we must magnetize our minds with intense DESIRE for riches, that we much become money conscious until the DESIRE for money drives us to create definite plans for acquiring it.

Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat. Only by so doing can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a BURNING DESIRE TO WIN, essential to success.

Every human being who reaches the age of understanding of the purpose of money, wishes for it. Wishing will not bring riches, but desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.

One must realize that all who have accumulated great fortunes, first did a certain amount of dreaming, hoping, wishing, DESIRING, and PLANNING before they acquired money. You may as well know that you can never have riches in great quantities, unless you can work yourself into a white heat of DESIRE for money, and actually BELIEVE you will possess it. You might as well know, also that every great leader, from the dawn of civilization down to the present, was a dreamer.

KNOWLEDGE will not attract money, unless it is organized and intelligently directed, through practical PLANS OF ACTION, to the DEFINITE END of accumulation of money. Lack of understanding of this fact has been the source of confusion to millions of people who falsely believe that 'knowledge is power'. It is nothing of the sort! Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.

If you do not see great riches in your IMAGINATION, you will never see them in you bank balance, as RICHES begin in the form of THOUGHT.

WE ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR FATE, THE CAPTAINS OF OUR SOULS, BECAUSE WE HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL OUR THOUGHTS.

EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.

... Napoleon Hill

Your Sex O'clock

12 AM

Sex before bed can be wonderful because you're calm and relaxed. However, some people don't prioritise their erotic life and try to fit sex into the end of the day slot which isn't ideal.

Sex Style - Provided you're not too sleepy, this can be incredibly sensual sex - you've all the time in the world to experiment and let your imagination run riot and then sleep spooned up together to strengthen that bond. (make sure you don't have that early board 1st-thing-in-the-morning meeting)

Switch Your Sex O'clock - Schedule in a joint 'dentist appointment' for early afternoon and hit the bedroom for some steamy fast-paced sex. You've got half an hour so make the most of it.

7 AM

The '7 am sex crew' is populated by people who like to have a head start in life, to be first off the block and have no problem standing out from the crowd.

Sex Style - Couples who swear by early-bird eroticism find that although their lovemaking is swifter, it is often more connecting. Testosterone levels are at their highest in the morning and a quickie can set you up for the day ahead.

Switch Your Sex O'clock - Try another time. Relax and aim to take time to explore each other's bodies before dinner so you can build up an appetite.

2 PM

This is when your sex hormones are at their peak, you're not as tired as later in the day and you don't have the pressure that the morning can bring. Sex in the afternoon is all about pure passion.

Sex Style - Afternoon passion is about actively choosing sex over other activities. It's about seduction and being naughty because making love in the middle of the day means that you're taking time out to concentrate on being a desirable person.

Switch Your Sex O'clock - Set your alarm and try a 7 am quickie for a change of pace - make it fast, furious and enjoy the dizzying rush of endorphins.

Anytime

Non-routine sex can often be the best kind; not only does it leave you and your partner with a sense of excitement and anticipation, but it also means neither of you are a slave to your libido or your schedules.

Sex Style- Everything from quickies through to long, slow sessions. If you get versatile with your sex clock then you can suit the sex to your mood, but be careful if you lead busy lives because this can result in no sex at all.

Switch Your Sex O'clock -  Schedule in sex. Send him a text and swap the supermarket for some saturday afternoon fun - you can always buy your groceries later.

... what I read

Relationship Happy Therapy

3 most common unhappy habits & how to turn them around ;

1. They've Lost Respect For Each Other

Unhappy couples often talk over each other, which shows a massive lack of respect. Take turns to talk without interruption. Only once they are forced to listen to each other in this way can they start the process of working out how to make each other happy.

2. They Don't Make Eye Contact

Unhappy couples often avoid eye contact when they're speaking to each other. A psychotherapist saw a couple who spent a whole session looking and directing everything they said to him. He asked them to look and speak directly at each other. As soon as they did that they began to really listen to what they were saying. Once they were communicating in this way they instantly felt closer.

3. They Misunderstand Each Other

An expert reveals, of the unhappy couples she meets, often the woman will speak in emotional terms, talking about how things make her feel, and the man will talk in more direct way, taking things at face value without considering the emotional side. She advised them to communicate with their partner in terms they'll understand, with men tapping into their emotional side and women their logical side.

... what I read